By following the advice in this post you will discover the transformative power of taking control of your life, by choosing solo motherhood as your path to family by becoming a single mom by choice.
Can you picture bringing your baby, or maybe even babies, into the world and holding them during their first moments here? You’ve ditched the exhausting dating scene and a new chapter begins. You no longer feel trapped in life and you’re now part of the mom club, regardless of how your baby was born or whether you did it alone. Now, you have your little one or twins to give all the amazing love you have inside you.
Becoming a mother is a story told in infinite ways. Today, I turn the spotlight onto a narrative less trodden, yet no less powerful. Let’s delve into the intriguing, empowering universe of single mums by choice.
Solo Motherhood: Choosing To Leap
There’s a certain audacity in declaring, “I choose this.” It’s a claim of power, a claim of agency, a claim of self. Single mums by choice, you’re not just brave, you are warriors. You have stepped into the arena, knowing that your decision invites both admiration and scrutiny.
This brave step isn’t just a lesson for others, it’s a lesson for you. Bravery is your new middle name. You’ve waltzed into uncharted territory, and, in doing so, you’ve made the brave choice to trust yourself, to rely on your strength, your resilience, your decision-making. You’re flexing muscles you never knew you even had, and it’s turning you into the BEST version of yourself. So stop putting yourself down, stop feeling like you’re never enough and repeat after me. I AM ENOUGH. I AM MORE THAN ENOUGH.
Solo Motherhood: Unlearn The Fairytale
Your life is not pre-packaged fairytales ready to be unboxed. Nor should they be. As a single mom by choice, you are redefining the concept of family. You’re the rule breaker, the change maker, forging your own path, and in doing so, challenging norms.
Forget what you know, break the norms, ask questions, and find new answers – it’s all part of figuring out who you really are. You’re not just making a new kind of family, you’re also creating a new you.
The Cool Surprises Of Being A Single Parent
Being a single parent might sound scary. But, inside that phrase, there’s a whole world of cool stuff waiting to be found. These aren’t shiny baubles, they’re life lessons about understanding yourself, love, and endless personal growth.
You become a master juggler. Work, laundry, school pickups, meal planning. Your organizational skills would make a military general proud. You become a living, breathing lesson in multitasking, a whirlwind of efficiency. And you know what? You’re doing it.
You should be your own biggest cheerleader. You are your own pep talk. You must learn to celebrate your wins, no matter how small. You must learn to pat yourself on the back and say, “I’m doing a good job.”
You become an unshakeable rock for your child. Your presence, your resilience, your love, these things become the foundation of their world.
The Awesome Strength In Taking Charge
Taking charge isn’t about micromanaging every detail of your life. It’s about facing the wild ride of life and saying, “I’m ready. Let’s do this.” It’s about understanding that you have the strength to deal with all the ups and downs, to laugh, to cry, and still come out stronger.
The cool thing about deciding to be a single mom is that you’re not just taking charge of your life; you’re showing your kid how amazing and powerful it is to be in control. You’re teaching them how good it feels to rely on themselves, to be self-sufficient, and to be independent.
Choosing to be a single mom isn’t just a power move, it’s a journey of personal growth. It’s a path from being a woman to becoming a warrior, showing your kid that they can break free from what society expects and write their own story.
Taking Charge And Showing It
Being empowered isn’t just a state, it’s an action. It’s about the choices you make, the tough stuff you get through, and the life you build for yourself and your family. Every day, you’re showing what it means to be empowered. Every decision you make, every problem you handle, every hug you give your kid. It’s all proof of your power.
You’re not just telling an empowerment story, you’re writing it, directing it, and you’re the star. And it’s a big hit.
As a single mom by choice, you’re not just empowering yourself; you’re showing others how it’s done. Every time you stand strong when things get hard, every time you laugh in the face of messiness, every tough call you make. You are a beacon for others. Your strength is their strength. Your bounce-back power is their bounce-back power. Your journey is their motivation.
The Ripple Effect Of Choosing You
The journey of empowerment for a single mom by choice doesn’t stop with you. It sends out ripples that reach way beyond your own life. It’s your kid learning about bravery, grit, and resilience. It’s your family and friends being amazed at how strong and adaptable you are. It’s society slowly realizing how powerful and valid your chosen path is.
By deciding to be a single mom, you’re empowering yourself, your kid, and EVERYONE around you. From the teachers and other parents at school to the doctors and nurses at the hospital.
Meet My Solo Mom Friend From LA
Hey, have I told you about Laura? Yes, my friend from Venice Beach, LA. So, Laura, she’s 44, rocking the single mom life like a champ, and has this absolute darling of a son, Jake, who just turned four.
You see, a few years back, she went through a pretty gnarly divorce. It was a tough time, no sugar-coating it. And she had to figure out how to navigate life, not just for herself, but for Jake too.
But you know what? Laura is the embodiment of resilience. She’s like those skateboarders at Venice Beach, always getting back up no matter how hard they wipe out. She looked in the mirror and said, “I’ve got this.”
One day, sitting on the beach watching Jake build sandcastles, it hit her. She didn’t just want to be the best mom she could for Jake, she wanted to give him a sibling. She wanted to expand their little duo into a trio. And she decided she was ready and willing to do it on her own.
Laura’s journey certainly hasn’t been a cakewalk. But every step of the way, she’s shown this incredible courage and tenacity that just blows me away. From navigating fertility treatments that didn’t always work out – cue heartbreak and a massive dent in her finances, to managing midnight feedings and school drop-offs for Jake. Time and time again, Laura’s proven that she’s got the power to take life head-on, no matter what it throws at her.
What About Jake?
You know, one of the things that strikes me most about Laura is how tuned in she is to Jake. She didn’t just make the decision to have another child in a vacuum. She involved Jake every step of the way. She sat him down one day, at their favorite spot on the beach, and explained that she wanted him to have a brother or sister. Laura told him about how it would mean a little less mommy-time initially, but it’d also mean a whole new person to love, play, and grow with. Jake, bless his heart, thought about it, his little forehead wrinkled in concentration, then nodded seriously and said he wanted to be a big brother.
And when she started going for her treatments, she always made sure that Jake’s life was as normal and stable as possible. They kept their routines, their beach visits, their ice-cream Sundays. And when she felt off from the treatments, she’d just explain to Jake that Mommy wasn’t feeling super well but she’d be okay soon.
Laura’s all about keeping communication lines wide open. Even now, with a new baby at home, she makes sure Jake gets his special ‘Mommy and Me’ time, and he’s adjusting well. It’s not all sunshine and rainbows, of course, there’s jealousy, there’s mood swings, there’s tiger tears. But they tackle it head-on, like a team. The way she’s handled it all, it’s just another reason why I think she’s nothing short of amazing.
Seeing her with her two kids now, it’s like she’s in her element, y’know? She’s fully embraced this new chapter and has never looked more content. Laura’s journey is definitely proof that sometimes, the toughest decisions lead to the most beautiful destinations. I can’t help but feel inspired every time I see her on our monthly zoom calls, making the world her oyster. She’s a true Southern Cali warrior if you ask me.
Embrace Your Journey To Single Motherhood
Becoming a single mom by choice is not a decision made lightly. It is a brave leap into the unknown. It’s unlearning society’s norms and writing your own rules. It’s about embracing the unexpected rewards and navigating the challenges with courage and conviction.
But most importantly, it is a journey of empowerment and personal growth, an adventure of self-discovery, resilience, and boundless love. It’s a transformation from woman to warrior, from self to selfless, from being to becoming.
Every step of this journey, every triumph, every setback, every tear, every laugh, is shaping you into an extraordinary person. You are inspiring others and transforming lives.
So here’s to you, my fellow single moms by choice. Here’s to your audacity, your courage, your strength. Here’s to your journey, your growth, your empowerment.
Because when empowerment is in action, it’s not just life-changing. It’s world-changing.
My Nugget Of Wisdom
Natalie Imbruglia’s own journey to motherhood was not the conventional route. She turned to IVF treatment in 2019 and successfully welcomed Max into her life when she was 44, as a single mother by choice.
Drawing inspiration from Natalie’s iconic song “Torn,” I found a profound lesson that resonates with at least my journey of becoming a single mother by choice. “I’m all out of faith, this is how I feel, I’m cold and I’m ashamed, lying naked on the floor,” she sings, expressing a deep sense of vulnerability, yet also a starting point for change.
Becoming a single mom might feel like you’re stepping into a cold, unknown world, but it’s in those moments of raw vulnerability and courage where you’ll find our greatest strength. It’s not about being perfect; it’s about showing up for you and your child, embracing the vulnerability, and rising up to the occasion.
Are You Ready To Seize Control And Embrace The Path Of Solo Motherhood?
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