Midlife & Breaking The Chains Of Comparison

January 2, 2024

Dimple Sthankiya

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By following the advice in this post you will have actionable strategies for breaking free from the comparison trap and be able to foster way more self-confidence in your own abilities.

Picture this: a world where every woman knows her worth, marches to the beat of her own drum, and confidently showcases her talents without a second thought. A utopia, you might say. This world isn’t as far-fetched as you might think. The key lies in recognizing that fierce, unapologetic force that resides within each of us. Today, I want to delve into the dark depths of comparison, explore the untapped potential within you, and talk about breaking the chains that hold you back.

The Sinister Side Of Comparison

Comparison – a pesky, seemingly harmless word that harbors a serpent’s nest of self-doubt, envy, and dissatisfaction. It lurks in the shadows, waiting for the opportune moment to strike, injecting its venom into your very soul. Yet, it’s a poison we willingly consume, as we scroll through social media feeds, attend networking events, or even when we chat with friends.

But why do we indulge in this toxic behavior? Simple. We’re wired to compare. It’s an evolutionary mechanism, designed to keep us on our toes and constantly striving for more. However, in today’s world, this innate impulse has spiraled out of control, becoming a self-destructive force that erodes your self-worth.

Enough doom and gloom, let’s shift gears and discuss the bright side: your uniqueness. Yes, you. Here’s the secret: no one else can be you, and that is your power. Your unique blend of strengths, talents, and quirks is your competitive edge. Don’t let it go to waste by focusing on someone else’s journey. Instead, channel that energy into honing your skills and becoming the best version of you.


5 Practical Tips To Crush Comparison

Now that we’ve acknowledged the beast, it’s time to slay it. Here are some practical, actionable strategies to help you break free from the comparison trap.

1. Recognize the Comparison Trap

Awareness is the first step towards change. Catch yourself in the act of comparing, and remind yourself that it’s a waste of your time and energy. Recognize that someone else’s success doesn’t diminish yours. In fact, there’s plenty of room at the top for everyone. It’s what I call having an abundance mindset.

2. Practice Gratitude

Be the alchemist who transforms comparison into gratitude. Instead of dwelling on what you lack, focus on what you do have in your life. Start that gratitude journal today , and within a month you’ll have discovered a treasure trove of blessings you never even knew you had. This is a really powerful exercise to do and it really yields changes when you do it consistently.

3. Discover Your Unique Talents

Like a proud peacock, flaunt your unique gifts, share your voice. Identify your strengths and passions, and invest in developing them. The more you cultivate your talents and do more of what you love, the less you’ll be tempted to compare yourself to others.

4. Set Personal Goals

Be the architect of your own destiny. Set specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, and time-bound (SMART) goals that align with your values and aspirations. Remember, your goals should be tailored to your strengths, not someone else’s.

5. Celebrate Your Wins

Toot your own horn! Celebrate YOUR accomplishments, no matter how small. Every victory is a testament to your resilience, hard work, and determination. Create a culture of celebrating progress, and you’ll find yourself less inclined to look sideways or worse still, in the rear view.

Surround Yourself With Positivity

Energy is contagious. Surround yourself with positive, uplifting individuals who appreciate your value and cheer you on. These individuals are your tribe, your cheer squad. They’ll remind you of your worth when self-doubt creeps in. They do say that you are the product of the five people you spend most of your time with, so choose carefully.

Remember, the chains of comparison are forged in your mind. They can only bind you as long as you allow them to. By acknowledging your unique talents, embracing gratitude, setting personal goals, celebrating your wins, and fostering a positive environment, you will shatter those chains. You will.

In case you haven’t been told recently, YOU ARE MORE THAN ENOUGH JUST AS YOU ARE. Embrace your strengths, face your fears, and let everyone marvel at the wonder that is uniquely you. The race is long, and in the end, it’s only with yourself.

Remember, there is no one else like you. So, stop comparing and start living for you. 


My Nugget of Wisdom

Influenced by the lessons of Bob Proctor, I’ve learned that my thoughts really do shape my reality. As Proctor puts it, “You’re the only problem you will ever have and you’re the only solution.” Look, I’ve walked this path myself, tangled in the web of comparison and self-doubt more times than I care to remember, and each time I realize it’s my own mindset that holds me back and make me compare myself to others.

Proctor encouraged me to set my mental frequency at a level that resonated with the success I desired. This isn’t about comparing yourself to others and aspiring to be like someone else, but about recognizing your own capabilities and shaping your thought patterns towards your personal growth.

Instead of comparing, I started devoting my mental energy to visualizing and manifesting my unique strengths, talents, and aspirations. By doing this, I started to break free from the confines of comparison which let me feel more comfortable with letting my own light shine.

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