The Silver Lining With Older Moms: How Your Life Experience Makes You A Better Mom

December 5, 2023

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In this post you will learn about the benefits and strengths of being an older, more experienced mother.


Well, hello there! Glad to see you’ve found your way to this quirky corner of the internet, where I proudly bear my battle scars of the mom wars – laugh lines, love handles, and, let’s face it, a love for 9 PM bedtimes.

No need for any wrinkle cream here, because I’m about to unwrap the silver lining, and yes they do exist, for Older Moms, and let me tell you, it shines brighter than a toddler smeared in glitter paint.

Your Parenting Handbook

Raise your hand if you’ve been personally victimized by parenting books. Yeah, me too. But as an older mom, you’ve got your own parenting handbook. It’s called life. Yeah I know, It’s a well-thumbed, dog-eared manual that’s been through the ups, downs, lefts, rights, and 11PM fridge raids.

Those years of dealing with nightmarish bosses and impossible deadlines are paying off when it comes to mastering toddler tantrums and teenage angst. Let’s be honest, if you’ve survived Nick from accounting, you can certainly handle little Freddie’s latest emotional hurricane about not being allowed another chocolate cookie with sprinkles before dinner. And let’s not even talk about the magic trick of turning two-day-old leftovers into something edible. That’s Hogwarts-level wizardry right there.

The Sweet Taste Of Patience

Remember those days when patience was as elusive as a unicorn sipping a frappuccino? Good times. But with age comes wisdom, and with wisdom comes the quality of patience. You’ve done your time on the battlefield of life, and you’ve learned to pick your battles wisely. The lost art of “let it go” has become your new mantra.

Did your toddler just redecorate the living room wall with crayons? Back in the day, you’d have a full-blown meltdown. But today? You just grab a cup of tea, take a deep breath, and calmly channel your inner Bob Ross. “We don’t make mistakes, just happy little accidents.”

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Parents Are Masters Of Multitasking

As an older mom, you’ve been through the grinder. You’ve perfected the art of stirring pasta with one hand, checking emails with the other, and using your third hand to… wait, you don’t have a third hand? Could’ve fooled me!

As you well know, motherhood later in life is like being in a perpetual juggling act, where the balls are on fire, the crowd’s on their feet, and the only reward is seeing your little munchkins grow up into decent human beings. And hey, maybe even get some sleep sometime this decade.

Parenting 101 – Real World > Fantasy World

Once upon a time, I thought I’d be the perfect mother. I wouldn’t raise my voice, my home would always be clean, my child would eat all their vegetables, and unicorns would dance in my garden.

Well, as an older mom I’ve had my reality check. I’ve seen the Pinterest fails, I’ve set off the smoke alarm making toast and I’ve tried to put my son to bed eight times in one night. And you know what? It’s okay. Your kids aren’t looking for perfection; they just need your love, care, and sometimes your ability to mimic the voices of their favorite superhero characters.

Older Moms – Unflappable Confidence

Becoming a mother later in life means you’ve already taken on the world. You’ve faced rejection, like a bajillion times, you’ve made tonnes of mistakes and you’ve failed multiple times, and risen again. And that is what makes you unbeatable.

When Aunt Lucy gives unsolicited advice about how to raise your kids, you don’t crumble; you smile, thank her, and carry on with your mom mission, unflappable as a duck in the rain. You’re not just older, you’re bolder. And boy, does that come in handy in this parenting rodeo!

Greater Appreciation As An Older Mom

When you become a mom later in life, I think you appreciate every moment a little more. You’ve learned that time is fleeting, so you savor the messy moments, the giggles, the sloppy kisses, and yes, even the sleepless nights, sometimes. Ha, who are we kidding?

These are your wonder years, your magical years. These are the years you’ll look back on and say, “I did it. I was the best mom I could be given all the other things I had going on.” And hey, if that isn’t the best silver lining, then I don’t know what is.

Later Stage Motherhood & Body Image?

Motherhood at a later stage, it’s like a second act. Life, once a solo gig, is now a duet. You’re not just dancing to the rhythm of your beat, but swaying, twirling, sometimes even stumbling, to the tune of parenthood.

Has your reflection altered? Sure. But think about it – does the diamond lose its value when it’s out of the rough? No. It shines brighter, just like you. Your youthful glow might seem dimmed. But in its place? Wisdom, of love, of life. The laugh lines, the worn-out eyes, they’re not blemishes. They’re badges of honor. You’ve earned them. So wear them with pride. 

So, anyway, here’s the pitch. Late motherhood? It’s not a downgrade, it’s an upgrade. You’re not just growing older, you’re growing better. Aging doesn’t overshadow beauty; it enhances it. Seriously it does. The sagas of sleepless nights and taxing days, they don’t tarnish your image; they polish it. Your beauty, it’s like fine wine. Matured, full-bodied, worth it. The glass might have changed, but the essence? It’s richer, deeper, more interesting.

Motherhood is not about losing your former self; it’s about discovering a new one. It’s about evolving, becoming more than you were. Stronger, calmer, radiant, that’s what becoming an older mom has made you even if it doesn’t feel like it. Wrap your arms around your change, savor your journey. You’re not just an older mom; you’re an expert, a guru, a wise soul. You’re the real deal.

Cheers! To Older Moms

So, to all the older moms out there: embrace your laugh lines, your wisdom, and your knack for making the impossible possible. It’s not just age; it’s experience, and it’s time to wear it with pride. After all, diamonds aren’t the only thing that gets better with age. Moms do too!

My Nugget Of Wisdom

Channeling the queen of reinvention herself, Madonna, this article beautifully reminds us to embrace the changing seasons of life, especially motherhood. Madonna, an older mom herself, once said, “I’m tough, ambitious, and I know exactly what I want. If that makes me a bitch, okay.”

Age is not a barrier, but a blessing in disguise. It’s that rich tapestry of experiences you’ve woven over the years, the grit in your heart, and your wisdom that makes you a more resilient, empowered mom. So, keep rocking those laughter lines, mama. They are proof of your strength, your journey, and the love you’ve cultivated. Wear them as a badge of honor and remember, the best is yet to come. 

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