Bun In The Oven In Your 40s: Discover The Unique Advantages Of Being An Older Mother

December 4, 2023

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In this post you will discover the unique advantages of being an older mother and how to channel these strengths to create a fulfilling motherhood experience.

Alright, let’s talk about the elephant in the room, shall we? The one with a diaper bag slung over its shoulder and a baby bump that proudly proclaims, “Yes, I’m 40-something and pregnant.” Not many speak about the women who find themselves embarking on the parenting journey a little later in life. But, rest assured, you’re not alone. Not even close.

I was forty-three when I welcomed my son into the world, and just a few years later, I found myself stepping into perimenopause. Quite the contrast, isn’t it? Sure, I blend in with the other moms during the school run, but I often find myself with less energy than I had in my mid to late 30s. It’s not surprising, but at the same time, I’ve checked off a lot of boxes on my life’s bucket-list.

From living on different continents to devoting 18 months to deep yoga and meditation in some of the world’s most stunning locations, my life’s journey has been colorful and fulfilling. I’ve traveled, witnessed, and experienced so much, I felt ready for this new chapter in my life to be distinctly different.

Don’t misunderstand me; the transition was jarring and at times it still continues to be, even now. But I know this is a season of my life where I get to embrace motherhood, and I wouldn’t trade it for anything. As my son grows, we’re mapping out exciting adventures to undertake together, yet I also deeply cherish the space we’re in right now.

I am a mother to a wonderful young boy, and together, we’re navigating this fascinating journey called life. And truth be told, I absolutely love it.

The ‘Later-In-Life Mom’ Club

Remember, age is just a number. 40 isn’t just about eye creams and reading glasses. It’s about wisdom, strength, resilience, and a well of life experiences that your twenty-something self would probably be in awe of. So, what does this mean for motherhood?

Let’s dive into the unique advantages of being an older mom and how you can leverage these strengths to have an empowering, fulfilling parenting experience. But, let’s not be all rosy and dismiss the challenges either. We’re in this for the whole, beautifully messy ride, aren’t we?

The Wisdom And Maturity of Older Moms

In this thing called life, you’ve seen a bit, haven’t you? From managing your finances to handling difficult situations at work, you’ve tackled quite a few dragons. The wisdom and emotional maturity you’ve gained along the way is golden when it comes to parenting.

The emotional regulation and problem-solving skills you’ve honed? They’ll make those tantrums and sleepless nights a smidgen easier. Yes, just a smidgen. But hey, you’ll take all the help you can get, right?

Financial Stability & Older Moms

Let’s not kid ourselves, raising children isn’t cheap. With a few more years under your belt, chances are, you’re better equipped to handle the financial pressures that come with parenting. From diapers to college, that nest egg you’ve been nurturing can provide a solid footing for the journey ahead. And if you haven’t all is not lost you can start saving and investing now. Something is always better than nothing.


Perhaps one of the biggest perks of entering motherhood a bit later in life is that you likely have a much clearer sense of who you are. You’ve had time to explore your interests, chase your dreams, and figure out your priorities. This self-awareness can be a powerful compass, helping you make decisions that align with your family’s needs and values.

Challenges To Be Ready For When you’re Older

Life is about balance, isn’t it? With these upsides come a few challenges. It’s only fair we talk about them too.

Chasing after a toddler or enduring those sleepless nights may be a little more demanding on an older engine. That’s not to say it’s impossible, though. Finding ways to stay active and healthy is the way to go for upping your energy levels.

You might find that many of your peers are at a different life stage. While they’re becoming empty nesters or focusing on their careers, you’re in the thick of diapers and feedings. This disconnect can sometimes feel lonely. Remember, though, there’s a whole community of later-in-life moms out there ready to connect and support each other.

Pregnancy at an older age does come with increased medical risks. Regular prenatal care, a healthy lifestyle, and open communication with your doctor can go a long way in ensuring a safe and healthy pregnancy.

In the end, remember, age isn’t what defines you as a mother. It’s the love, patience, resilience, and wisdom that you bring into your child’s life that truly matters. Embrace your age. Wear it like a badge of honor. Because guess what? You’re about to rock this parenting gig, just like you’ve rocked a lot of things life has thrown at you.

Welcome to the “later-in-life mom” club. It’s a lucky place to be.

Older Motherhood: Navigating The Mental Challenge

We all go through profound life changes, and becoming a mom, especially a solo mom, after having an adrenaline-charged, globe-trotting lifestyle can feel like a tectonic shift. The passport that was once filled with stamps from around the world is now filled with shopping lists and pediatrician appointment reminders. That high-powered social life, where your calendar was marked with exciting outings, has been replaced by a baby schedule, full of feeding times and nap intervals.

This transition can be disorienting and a bit overwhelming. You’re trading in the spontaneity of jet-setting and social gatherings for the predictability (and unpredictability) of motherhood. One moment, you were exploring hidden trails in Peru, the next, you’re discovering hidden talents for humming lullabies and changing diapers at lightning speed.

For many, this abrupt change can spark a sense of identity loss. You may look in the mirror and wonder, “Who am I now?” You’re a mother, yes, but you’re also the woman who has scaled mountains, navigated foreign cities, and savored exotic cuisines. You’ve negotiated business deals, presented at conferences, or run marathons.

It’s essential to understand that while motherhood becomes a substantial part of your identity, it doesn’t erase the thrill-seeker, the adventurer, the social butterfly, or the career woman. It simply adds a new layer, a new depth to who you are. Yes, your priorities shift, your schedule changes, but the core of you, that indomitable spirit, remains.

Embrace this new chapter not as a loss, but as an evolution of your identity. It’s not about giving up a part of yourself, but rather, expanding who you are. You’re not just a mom. You’re a mom with a passport full of stamps, a heart full of adventures, and a world of experiences that have shaped you. And guess what? That makes you an even more kick-ass mom.

How You Can Navigate The Identity Shift

Facing the mirror of self-identity, especially as an older, solo mom transitioning from a globe-trotting, bustling lifestyle, can be a daunting challenge. You may find yourself staring back at a stranger. Your sense of self, your perception of who you are has shifted gears dramatically, leaving you grappling with feelings of confusion, loss, and perhaps even grief.

First and foremost, it’s essential to acknowledge that these feelings are completely normal. A substantial shift in lifestyle and identity can spark a sort of identity crisis. You’re not alone in this; it’s a common, albeit rarely spoken about, aspect of transitioning into motherhood.

Embrace The Fluidity Of Identity

Identity is not set in stone. It is a fluid, ever-evolving construct shaped by your experiences, your choices, your environment. Recognize and embrace the fact that becoming a mom is just another step in this continual evolution. It doesn’t nullify your past experiences or achievements; it merely adds another facet to your multidimensional self.

Seek Support

Connecting with other moms, particularly those who have gone through a similar transition, can be immensely helpful. It really helped me. These connections can provide validation for your feelings and experiences, as well as offer practical advice. Remember, there is strength in vulnerability and in shared experiences. So be vulnerable and share.

Keep Your Passions Alive

While it’s natural for your child to take center stage, don’t completely sideline your interests and passions. Be it traveling, painting, writing, or running marathons, find ways to incorporate these activities into your new life. They are vital parts of who you are and can serve as a lifeline to your pre-mom self.

Seek Professional Help

If feelings of loss, confusion, or sadness become overwhelming, seek help from a mental health professional. Therapists and counselors can provide valuable tools and techniques to help you navigate this significant life change. Don;t hide and hope those feelings will go away. 

Practice Regular Self-Care And Self-Compassion

This new phase is demanding, emotionally, physically, and mentally. Prioritize self-care. Listen to your body and your mind, and take time to rest and recharge. Be patient and gentle with yourself as you navigate these uncharted waters. Self-compassion can be a powerful tool in coping with changes. Even if you are a solo mom, trust me you have to make sure your batteries are fully charged to be the best parent you can be, plus you deserve to do things for you. I mean who doesn’t?

Becoming a mom later in life, especially when transitioning from a vibrant, independent lifestyle, can feel like a seismic shift in your identity. It’s a profound, complex journey, fraught with challenges, yes, but oh, the rewards – they’re beyond words. Remember, this new ‘mom’ label doesn’t erase who you’ve been. You’re not just a mom, but a globe-trotter, a life-of-the-party, a sage, a tough cookie, and so much more. Embrace this expanded version of you. You’ve got this.

Famous Older Moms

Halle Berry, Mother At 41 & 47

Academy Award-winning actress Halle Berry is a perfect example of a later-in-life motherhood. She became a mother at 41, and again at 47, facing the world with courage and determination. While juggling her demanding career, she dealt with the physical challenges of pregnancy in her 40s, as well as the intense media scrutiny that comes with being a public figure.

Berry has always viewed her experiences as empowering, as they added a beautiful new dimension to her life and her identity as a woman.

Laura Linney, Mother At 49

Emmy and Golden Globe-winning actress Laura Linney embraced motherhood at the age of 49. She has been candid about the unique challenges and joys of being an older mom. Her life experiences, she found, equipped her well for the unpredictability and intensity of motherhood.

She has spoken about the deep gratitude she feels for having her son later in life, when she was emotionally and financially stable, and when she felt ready to give her all to her child. Linney’s journey underlines the unique strengths and perspectives that older moms bring to the table.

Naomi Campbell, Mother At 50

Supermodel Naomi Campbell became a first-time mom at 50, making headlines around the world. An international icon known for her fiercely independent spirit, Campbell’s entry into motherhood was widely celebrated.

Navigating this new chapter of her life privately, she’s shared limited glimpses into her motherhood journey. Still, through these snippets, she has shown that her journey has been one of love, joy, and personal transformation. Embracing motherhood at a later stage in life, for Campbell, is a testament to the fact that it’s never too late to embark on this beautiful journey. Her story sends a powerful message about the beauty of motherhood, regardless of age.

My Nugget Of Wisdom

Reflecting on Dr. Joe Dispenza’s wisdom, he once said, “We’re addicted to our beliefs; we’re addicted to the emotions of our past. We see our beliefs as truths, not as ideas that we can change.” Now, imagine the power in applying this to becoming a mother in your 40s.

Society has conditioned us to believe that younger is better, but what if we told you that you, an older mother, possess unique qualities? We’re not just talking about the wisdom, financial stability, and emotional maturity mentioned in the article, but the freedom to redefine the ideas around motherhood. The ability to break free from past conditioning and outdated norms that don’t serve us.

Embrace this transformative journey with joy and power, knowing that you have the strength and the right to define motherhood on your own terms. It’s never too late to change your story.

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